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This blog is long overdue and although I no longer am dealing with this I'm still going to share it. I purposed in my heart to be transparent in this blog and to let yall see the good and bad. Last week was part of the bad. I went through a slump of discouragement.
As you know, I challenged you all to a 40 day SEX FAST...I didn't get many hits although I'm grateful for the one that is participating but mostly I just had a lot of people reading the blog. For one, I'm not doing this for attention or to be "popular" it's just that I really felt like people are ashamed to DO RIGHT. There is nothing wrong with abstaining from sex until you're married. There is nothing wrong with seeing if the Word truly works. But we're in a society where doing the right thing is not acceptable. And so I begin to feel discouraged because I couldn't figure out how so many people can talk about having sex all day long and NOT BE ASHAMED....and yet those that actually stand for righteousness seem to be ASHAMED.
Maybe that's why the Lord is using me; I'm not ashamed. And I'm not ashamed to stand alone, lonely it may be. But I will admit, I was challenged. I cried out to God wondering why I had to be the one to be used to bring attention to this? Everybody else practicing this lifestyle is low key with it. Yet.....My book is about sex and abstinence, my organization is about sex and abstinence, mostly everything I say on Twitter & FB is related to sex and abstinence....WHY ME!? Why do I have to care so much about the sexual sins of this city, of this nation. I mean, everybody else that practices abstinence is pretty much on the "down low" with it. No offense to those but as Christians our lives should be a testimony to others. How can you light a candle and put it under a bed? I almost feel like people are really ashamed to look unpopular or fear social rejection.
I've never really been the type to be concerned about what people thought of me. When I was sexually active, I was reserved just because I don't feel like everyone should know what I do in the bedroom; but not because I was ashamed. Whether I was doing right or doing wrong...I was doing me. So whatever to the opinions of others. So I really didn't care what people thought. But the last few days I just felt more and more discouraged and alone. And then it burned me up that I had a comment to say, "...if she don't give it to me someone else will." I mean THAT is the society that we live in and yet we as WOMEN don't realize our worth and to VALUE ourselves enough to say, "You don't deserve me." And us that know better aren't doing a dang on thing to help these women and pull the blinds off of their eyes. No men are stepping up to say that a REAL man would wait. But everybodys so "real" these days....yeah?!
It burnt me up because I know that fear all to well. I feared losing my fiance because of this but instead he went from boyfriend to fiance within 3 months of this decision. And the date has been set! If a man really loves you, he will wait and respect your decision. But it's that senselessness and NOBODY is helping anyone out!!! Christians shouldn't be selfish with things like this! I got a text at 3am this morning from an old student telling me how my blog impacted her life. THAT IS WHY I DO THIS. CHRISTIANS--PEOPLE need to see your LIGHT!
So, yes, I felt alone; I felt discouraged. And I prayed...and I cried. I thought no one was paying attention to these blogs but the number of hits go up everyday. I just pray that the boldness comes to walk in integrity and purity and KNOW that although it's not the POPULAR choice, there are rewards to being obedient.
I listened to Mary Mary's song, "Sitting With Me" on repeat Saturday morning. And it really helped me alot! I challenge you to take a listen.
So anyway, this is me, "Ms. Unpopular...never asked to be part of the in crowd.".....
Here's a quote from my devotional...something to think about:
#teamABSTINENCE...........LET'S GO!!!!
Available for contact - donnaking@teamabstinence.org
I love that song! I posted it on fb a few days ago & then again tonight, lol! I even made the chorus part of my status a few days ago because I adore the lyrics & the meaning behind the song. Okay...back to business...lol.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you wholeheartedly! The title of this post says it all....Ms. Unpopular! I too am not a "popular" gal so to say because I boldly allow the Jesus within me to shine through. Though social networks such as facebook and even blogger are meant for connecting with new and old family members and friends, for me, it goes BEYOND that! At least 90% of the statuses that I post relate to God in some way, shape, form, and fashion because that is who I DESIRE to be like. No, I am not perfect and never will be, but I'm striving daily to be who God needs me to be.
So though you were discouraged, don't allow that to stop you from continuing to profess who you are. There need to be more people like you and others who don't mind helping the next out and sharing stories of triumphs and tragedies. One thing I do want you to keep in mind is that just because you may "feel" as if you are the only person who shouts "abstinence" out loud doesn't mean you're the only one that cares or is not ashamed. I too am currently practicing it, but God has led me to "shout" about other things (if that makes sense, lol). God has gifted each of us with different abilities and assignments. I truly believe my calling may be to encourage, whereas yours may be to inspire both the young and old to wait on a sex until you're married.
So be encouraged and know that God is pleased with your efforts. There ARE rewards in obedience, and I am striving to receive all of them. I backslide from time to time and recognize the error of my ways, and because of that, I have to choose righteousness over convenience if I want God to be pleasede....the UNPOPULAR choice! So just as the lyrics in the song state.....
"Yea I've been stepped on, looked over...just for carrying this cross on my shoulder. Its OKAY, with me....if I'm the last one that's picked for the team. I'll sit on the sidelines as long as he's sitting WITH me...."
please know that as long as you are doing the GOD THING, you're doing the RIGHT THING! Love ya!
I totally 100% agree. That was the thing that I asked God -- not why me but WHY THIS?! Of ALL things that my life could be a testimony of...why this? lol But I accept it and find comfort and peace in my obedience. As I talk with my students I see more than ever that they're in need of direction when it comes to sex and abstinence. So..yep...it's OKAY! Thanks 'Nina
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